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He wants a strap on

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greenegg · 10/08/2017 23:21

Due to work etc my lover and I only get to meet up once every 2/3 months. We have a lot of sexting in between and it is so hot when we do meet. He's recently been saying he'd like me to wear a strap on and f&ck him in the ass while he's tied up. Told me he's been practicing for me, and put his own finger in and out up there and it made him cum really hard. Last night he was watching porn and watching a guy tied up having it.

So question, has anyone done this with their oh? is putting his own finger in normal? My friends say they think he may be gay if that's what he wants. Pretty sure he isn't as I know g-spot is at the prostate. Just not sure where to start, what to do, what to think. We're next meeting in 2 weeks.

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sonlypuppyfat · 10/08/2017 23:25

I live in a very different world to some

ImperialBlether · 10/08/2017 23:29

Oh god. Are you for real?

I can see why you don't see him very often.

Mrscropley · 10/08/2017 23:32

Def doesn't mean he is gay. . And at least he is a man who knows what he wants!! Nothing worse than a shrinking Violet in the bedroom - - - -
Anne Summers /lovehoney are worth a look online, decreet packaging. . . Don't forget the lube!!
If you want to run for the hills then do so - but be tactful. His requests may be outrageous to you but obviously perfectly normal for him!!

scottishdiem · 10/08/2017 23:43

Pegging. Its called pegging.

Its all about the prostate.

If you are up for it then have a go. You can also get triple headed dildos for vaginal and anal penetration of the female and anal penetration of the man. You can also get strap-ons with clitoral stimulators and small dildos for you to feel pleasure at every thrust.

If he wants it doggy style you may see him pleasure himself but if you try it in a missionary style position you can also wank him for max pleasure.

However, he really then needs to work hard to make sure you get your own pleasure.

elevenclips · 10/08/2017 23:46

Sex seems very complicated these days.

Anyway OP I'd say it was just an indication of having watched far too much porn. But if you want to do it then go ahead and see how it goes!

scottishdiem · 11/08/2017 00:02

Porn? Oh dear. Some men can get pleasure from things that stimulate sensitive areas of the body regardless of their porn watching. If any.

In the Philosophy in the Bedroom (written in 1795) the idea of a man being penetrated by a women was included. There is even a small painting in Pompeii that depicts the use of strap-ons.

blahdeblah12 · 11/08/2017 00:10

It's not weird - lots of guys like it. I'd start small and slow and see how you get on. If you don't want to start with a strap on how bout your finger to begin with, or maybe a butt plug or something?

calzone · 11/08/2017 00:19

((Bleaches brain))

Graphista · 11/08/2017 00:32

V common fantasy but not good to go straight from fingers to strap on that's the horn talking. He needs more practice. Have him look up anal training

LineysRun · 11/08/2017 00:37

I sometimes wonder about the world and all its mysteries.

scottishdiem · 11/08/2017 01:43

When you stop thinking about mysteries, trying new things and accepting others as they are, then you may as well just give up on life and live in a quiet little protected cave.

Sex is fun, everything should be tried at least once. How do people know what they do and do not like without trying it?

St01c · 11/08/2017 01:53

Well Holy God Miley.

I'd just tell him that that's a turn off.

disneydatknee · 11/08/2017 02:34

Doesn't make him gay. Woman with a strap on seems to be more about female dominance than actually wanting a cock up the bum. But he might be curious to play around with the prostate. Maybe he's got carried away with the porn! I've never been with anyone who's suggested this but my sex life is quite vanilla. I think the more relevant question is, would you be comfortable with this?

TheNaze73 · 11/08/2017 07:37

Prostate stimulaton is pretty standard & explosive for most men.

Being fucked up the arse with a strap on, is a submissive thing like disney says

NewMummyMNetter · 11/08/2017 09:24

OP having his prostate played with will be a huge turn on for him, my hubby likes it, was something i suggested and he's so happy I did now, as for the strap on maybe try with fingers or a butt plug first! I think what is evident in his request he wants to be submissive to you! And what better way than to give up his bum.
I'm not sure why people judge on here! Each to their own! That's what makes the world a special place! If we all liked the same things it would be a very boring place!

debbs77 · 11/08/2017 09:28

I'm seeing someone that is in to the same. I'm not especially 'vanilla' but it's made me panic a bit!

But I am happy to try new things, I just want to take them slowly and within my own boundaries

SheWhoDaresGins2 · 11/08/2017 11:21

Don't forget to get a douche and some lube, especially the lube.

bridgetoc · 11/08/2017 13:50

Are your friends stupid? It would only be gay if he wanted a man to give him bum fun.

Lots of sexually submissive men like that sort of thing. Nothing wrong with it at all. Lots of dominant woman like giving it as well.

My husband likes it, and I like it because of that, but also because I like to be dominant over him in bed. My BF would never go for it, he's far to dominant, and I would not want him too.

If you think you might be o.k with it, give it a go. If not, don't. Simple........

Ropsleybunny · 11/08/2017 13:52

Doesn't mean he's gay. Only do it if you want to.

greenegg · 11/08/2017 14:03

thanks for all the replies, put my mind at ease a bit. Open to trying anything once so will give it a go but think will start small with plug or beads and work up from there. I've done it with a finger in him and that drove him wild so plug sounds ideal next step. Don't know what douche is, will find out.

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Deadsouls · 11/08/2017 14:07

It's hardly a mystery as has been commented upthread, these kinds of sexual acts have been performed for hundreds of years! Thousands probably. Just look up roman history, dildos have been around for millennia...

ArthurScargillsgingerpube · 11/08/2017 14:09

My friends say they think he may be gay if that's what he wants.

With the greatest respect, your friends are arseholes.

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Gothbaby · 11/08/2017 17:55

there are lots of nerve endings in a male anus , hence why so many straight men like a finger up there. Its pretty common for guys to like this, up the arse doesnt mean gay (with that argument every guy like likes to give anal would be gay....) Its totally normal and very good that you are both actually open and talking about sexual likes!! maybe if you try this out, you can ask him to do something you've always wanted to try! x

AdalindSchade · 11/08/2017 19:31

Wow, your friends are thick

Pegging isn't for me, I don't want to interact with men's arseholes and I don't think I have the core fitness to keep it going but if you fancy trying it why not?

wikedminx · 11/08/2017 23:45

Well I would say that your best friend when starting anal play with your man is Lube.. Lube... Oh and a bit more Lube!! And if you are worried about nails get some disposable latex gloves (also handy for yucky moments!!) and to be honest some chaps who like anal love the idea of a latex glove!!!
If a tongue is to be used then a bit of cling film may also be your best friend.
As others have said start with fingers and work up to toys then a strap on...
oh and as for position! if his hands are tied up - he cant play! and maybe a cock ring or a handy placed tie will stop usual cumming ;)

oh and have fun...

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