DD (year 6) has never been popular. Not invited to parties, excluded from groups, etc. She has dyspraxia, is a bit of a square peg, has had problems through school but has got a group of 3 good friends now who are seen as a bit nerdy (she thinks, I think she is probably right). She is going to secondary school with one of them and nobody else from her school (her choice to make a fresh start).
DD was in a big show last year. Because she isn't very popular nobody at school much cared but we were incredibly proud of her and lots of her outside school friends and family came to support her. Given she has dyspraxia the fact she got in was even more amazing.
This year a girl in her class (a friend outside of school, not really in school) who is probably the most popular girl in the year is in the same production with a different am dram group. DD auditioned for it and although she got through the first stage didn't get in which makes matters a whole lot worse.
Its on next week. All the girls keep talking about it, how this girl is the best singer/dancer/actor/prettiest, teachers are going to the show as are loads of the year group. DD said its made her feel even more invisible than ever, that she did all this last year and nobody acknowledged or really cared, even the teachers. She wants to say something but wouldn't as she knows it wouldn't reflect well on her so keeps it in and then rages when she gets in. I keep telling her that the important people in her life were proud and came to support her, that those girls aren't her friends anyway and quite frankly in a few weeks it will all over and everyone will have forgotten about it. She bears no malice to the girl by the way, its just everyone elses fauning.
I totally understand how she feels. She has always felt left out and invisible and this just further underline it. Thankfully she is going to a secondary school without the popular gang so she can make a fresh start but she is now worried it will never be any different. There will always be a"popular girl" and she will always be overlooked, especially in peforming arts stuff. I told her that all the popular girls from all the primary schools will have loads of competition and she just needs to quietly get on with being her, work at being really good at what she wants to do and not worry about it all, but I am 45 not 11 so easier for me to say.
Just realised that was quite a long bit of background! Does anyone have postive stories of them or their DC being unpopular at primary school but it all worked out at secondary?
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