I know, I am a complete tit.
We are supposed to be moving house imminently and everything has gone to pot, I've packed everything useful like the name tapes, because we were anticipating exchanging in FEBRUARY and have bought basically none of the uniform, we had a failed appeal for another school which meant we didn't even know where he was going till fairly recently, and to be honest I really dislike the school I am sending him to.
So it's probably one of those subconscious things where I don't want to find it all.
However I have to know when the second hand uniform sale dates are, where we can buy the uniform from if not, what he has to bring, and even his welcome booklet with the info and map and everything has GORN. It is a massive pack of papers and I put them somewhere 'safe' a few weeks ago in the end of term chaos.
AND I failed to notice the tiny date at the bottom of the Induction day letter asking for it to be returned by July 11th (to be fair I don't think we had even received it by then - they are not very organised themselves) and when I tried to ring and email two weeks later, with massive apologies, asking if he could still come, they were not there.
This is at the end of August and we will probably just turn up.
I'm a total fail of a parent and don't know what to do except run around screaming.
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Rooners · 07/08/2014 07:22
There's zero on the website. It was the first thing I did, and I searched but there is nothing for new parents/new intake AT ALL.
All it gives is a general outline of uniform and a single shop that is 20 miles from here. We will have to make do with that.
We do know a couple of kids going there, I will have to beg for the uniform sale dates I think - I don't know any of them very well and so don't want to look like I'm going to be depending on them for the next seven years I've never actually asked anyone that kind of thing before, we are usualy super organised.
Thank you for replies and trying to be reassuring.
Oh LOL 
No sadly not even tepid 
sigh
we want hot priests at least
I think you're right and that is a very good idea - I am anxious about asking someone to copy it all for me though, it seems an inordinate amount of work.
The school office should have this info but I can't get hold of anyone there.
I wish they would send stuff by email or at least vital dates etc, we have parentmail at our primary and it means I can find stuff immediately even if I never read it in the first place.
Thank you so much - I am off to look for wrapping paper 
Oh thank you that is such a kind post. I am a single parent too, but we seem to spend our entire lives running about literally and figuratively after the toddler and so everything else gets delegated and relegated and lost. I hope to recover by the time he is about 5...
we have stationery already and pens and a calc and a bag, cannot find his lovely school shoes we had last term, have bought some new trainers for PE, and am sorting ourt mobile phone contract. So we're sort of getting there.
I really want him to be ready and for itto be an easy transition but the thing is, he doesn't like the school, I don't like the school, none of us has much enthusiasm for getting ready I suppose.
At least where we're moving to he'll have his own room so that should help somewhat.
Good luck to your dd too, I hope she will love it
Hi rooners. There will be staff in school for a level results- 13/14 august or / and goes on the following weds/ Thursday. Try contacting the school then. You gave so much on!
Oh brilliant idea, thank you! Gah. yes lots of tea, wine would send me into orbit I think
Oh hello! Oh gosh you poor thing leaving everyone behind like that. I can't imagine, it must feel very daunting. Does your boy like his new school? I hope so.
Mine's very scatty too. He would lose his own head if it weren't attached to him. We both have misgivings about the school because it's basically very rough. There were some kind older kids there when he went up for a day, last term, but the ones in his year group weren't that nice - one kid took the piss out of his name all day. (it's a normal, non teasable name)
I found myself up against some very scary parents when I was waiting to sign him in, too. So we're basically being lightweights but it hasn't got much money as a school and everything is very old and tatty, some of the teachers appear quite unkind already though some are clearly fab. The dinners were awful according to ds. sigh.
When do you think you might be able to move in to your own place? Is it likely to be long? As much as I love my folks the thought of sharing a house with them is enough to drive me to drink. I would definitely put on weight in that situation too - I can quite understand it!
Huge hugs. And thank you for posting 
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*chats, not chars. I don't have a char lady. Even though I'm obviously a huge snob, I don't employ nice local women to scrub my floors and make me tea. Sadly.
We should be exchanging contracts on our new house any day now. I'm ready, just waiting for our (sodding) seller to progress on her (bloody) sale. I used to like her, until she messed us around earlier in the year and put the price up arbitrarily.
And breathe!
Have you moved into yours yet? Where are you? We're in Berkshire. It'd be lovely if we were close so we could meet for a real and a lovely soothing moan. :)
I would LOVE that. We're in deepest Kent though. and I like the idea of a char lady now. I may shortly become discontented with my lot
I hope you manage to exchange quickly now. Are your parents quite nice or quite difficult? I love mine but could cheerfully strangle my mother about once a week.
Sorry you have got a rough school to contend with. But good if the secondary is better. Son 1 went to a really good primary so this secondary is like throwing him to the metaphorical lions. I love the bit about him being delicate, it's worth a try, perhaps I can coach him in a forlorn sort of expression
We don't want the failed appeal any more, I decided that if they are going to be like that, they can keep their place. Not bitter AT ALL. But there are a couple of other schools we have got him on the list for - no idea where we are on it though.
Thank you for your kind support. We should keep in touch on here at least! Good luck with the house and keep breathing xx
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