I know MIL issues aren't rare on this site but I wondered if anyone had been in a similar situation...
Last week I exploded at my MIL for the first time having buttoned it for 16 mths since my ds was born.
It all came out - her awful pushiness at the birth and insistence to see the newborn in hospital even though I'd said no and was in a dreadful state, bringing her boyfriend whom I had met twice with her
- inviting herself to our house the first night the baby left the hosp even though I'd said no to 'help'. She actually slept in the same room as the baby and fed him in the night.
- subsequent pressure to see the baby every 2 weeks with bossy demands of dates in diaries and much hassling to confirm
- pressure to always bring the baby to her even though she is an hour and a half away and we don't have a car
- crying to my dp that she felt let down when we had to change visit plans at the last minute
- snide comments about how 'the younger generation' don't handle birth very well etc etc
I told she had put unbearable pressure on her son and myself, that I wasn't a 'rent-a-womb'and we couldn't always facilitate her demands to see the grandson. She was astonished and very upset and is now not talking to us. Although I know I'm right and it had to come out, I still feel really guilty for hurting her feelings and not handling it better.
Does anyone have any thoughts?!