Just wondered what other mumsnetters think of my situation as I have no one else to confide in.
The weekend just gone dh's sister came to stay and went and got some shopping with dh and the kids .I should say i suffer from anxiety and sometimes have problems going out.On their return his sister put away the shopping with me and proceeded to tidy up my fridge.She found a couple of out of date things .Nothing more was said.
Also dh's family are planning a weekend away somewhere abroad in september for his mum's birthday.His sister is orgainising this and mentioned nothing about it all weekend.
Tonight dh comes in and starts to tell me his sister sent him an e mail at work about the plans for this weekend and they need to get it booked.
I felt under so much pressure,i felt sick.I must explain i am seeing a therapist for agrophobia and depression.Dh then went on about the flight etc.I am having difficultly getting to the local shop with the kids and coping at the moment much more getting on a plane.
I was stunned and asked he realised what he was asking of me,and he said i was up my own arse and i was being awkward.I just feel so ignored.His sister knows i am seeing atherapist and things are difficult for me at the moment.Then they talk together and arrange everything ,why not disscuss it when she was here at the weekend.
My dh then went on to say he was so embaressed at the weekend that his sister found out of date things in our fridge and what do i do all day that i can't keep the fridge tidy.
Then he said i was'nt taking my responsibiltues seroiusly and i could have poisened the children with out of date food!!
I t was 2 tubs of creme fraiche fgs and i am with them all the time they are 4 and 2 they would'nt have eaten it.
I can't do this anymore this is just an example of a long line of put downs about my mothering skills.I might add he had a drink and this is normally when i get these kind of remarks.
Then it's back to normal again.I never know day to day what he will accuse me of next.
I can't forgive some of the things he says especially where the kids are concerned.I do my best everyday by them despite not being able to cope and wanting to run away !!!I adore them they are my life.
I really frightened myself tonight when he was going on at me from the lounge .I was in the kitchen and just picked up a table knife and started to scrape my wrists and saying shut up ,shut up.
I have never done anything like this before but i just wanted him to stop abusing me mentally.
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dollyeyes · 27/07/2005 22:04
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