I have posted a couple of times before but to cut a long story short, I am planning on leaving my DH in two weeks time. I have been fighting to get out for a number of years but he won't leave (it's pretty much my house financially) and when I've tried to leave in the past, he hasn't let me. He's not violent but has been emotionally abusive over the years. He used to smoke a lot (not cigs) but gave up 'again' 3 weeks ago. He doesn't contribute to the household financially - I pay the mortgage, child care, groceries, bills etc. He is constantly looking at porn on the net and recently tried to arrange meeting up with a girl he met on a 'let's have sex' website (it was actually me testing him once I found out he had signed up - he didn't know it was me until his email friend stood him up).
Anyway, he is going away in two weeks and I have arranged a rental property to move into. I have to sign the lease tomorrow at noon and I am having major second thoughts. I do care for my DH and he is a good father but I know he isn't good for me. Everyone knows this but for some reason, I just can't seem to get out. After years of trying to get out, why am I having major second thoughts now that the time has come? Is it only because we've had a pretty nice weekend or am I supposed to stay and work it out? Thoughts and advice would be really helpful.
Thanks
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Why am I having second thoughts?
Sshhbear · 11/10/2009 12:58
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