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What the hell is wrong with me?

(34 Posts)
emogedden Thu 24-Sep-09 23:20:44

I want a long term relationship yeah but after about 3 or 4 weeks I get bored and want out.

The bloke could be does not make a difference. What is wrong with me?

Why have I no staying power?

I have met a wonderful man and after 3 and a half weeks I am like ummmmmm yeahhh ok....the fireworks and BOOM you get when you have met someone has gone.

Am I man lol?

FluffySaysTheDailyMailsShite Thu 24-Sep-09 23:23:22

Nope, you are not a man. You sound like me.

emogedden Thu 24-Sep-09 23:23:28

Sorry that was supposed to say 'Am I male'.

emogedden Thu 24-Sep-09 23:24:05 lol

FluffySaysTheDailyMailsShite Thu 24-Sep-09 23:24:18


emogedden Thu 24-Sep-09 23:25:27

Come on then Fluff tell me what happens with you.

FluffySaysTheDailyMailsShite Thu 24-Sep-09 23:25:31

Did you see a bad relationship between your parents?

FluffySaysTheDailyMailsShite Thu 24-Sep-09 23:27:05

I just dump them, it's always after a month, I get sick of them. They start to annoy me. It's really bad.

emogedden Thu 24-Sep-09 23:27:18

God yeah my dad hit my mum and I went onto having the same.

emogedden Thu 24-Sep-09 23:27:49

Yes! Annoyance!

FluffySaysTheDailyMailsShite Thu 24-Sep-09 23:29:13

That's the problem. My dad was an alcoholic, my parents used to argue every night. I remember listening to them, crying under the covers. If you don't see a good relationship you don't know what one is. It frightens you.

emogedden Thu 24-Sep-09 23:30:17

Is that the same as boredom?

FluffySaysTheDailyMailsShite Thu 24-Sep-09 23:32:02

yup. It's the same. they mask each other.

emogedden Thu 24-Sep-09 23:34:21

Then I need to get out of the circle of hate.

Alibabaandthe40nappies Thu 24-Sep-09 23:35:16

I used to be like this, and then I met DH. Never managed a relationship longer than 6 weeks prior to him.

One day it really will be the right person and the annoyance won't happen.

FluffySaysTheDailyMailsShite Thu 24-Sep-09 23:36:06

I'm trying, it's really hard!!

emogedden Thu 24-Sep-09 23:36:58

Ali so your saying he is not 'the one'?

FluffySaysTheDailyMailsShite Thu 24-Sep-09 23:39:49

It doesn't sound like it. You need one with the patience of a saint. Take it slow!!

emogedden Thu 24-Sep-09 23:41:00

Slow? He has asked me to move in!

Ohhhhhhhhh that is why I am freaking out.

FluffySaysTheDailyMailsShite Thu 24-Sep-09 23:42:27

ARGHHH!!!! And it's been a month????

That really would freak me out.

emogedden Thu 24-Sep-09 23:43:26

Aye but it is more..........dum dum da dummmmm marriage stuff.

Alibabaandthe40nappies Thu 24-Sep-09 23:45:39

Emo DH proposed after 5 days and we moved in together after 2 months.

I'm not sure that the fireworks should go as early as 3 weeks though - although you might just be experiencing the absence of fear!

Sorry I am being no help here. Is he annoying you?

FluffySaysTheDailyMailsShite Thu 24-Sep-09 23:47:05

Ok. Do you like him or just sick of the sight of him??

being together alot won't help.

SolidGoldBrass Thu 24-Sep-09 23:48:58

Erm, why do you think you want a longterm relationship? They are not compulsory. It's perfectly OK to not actually want one and being single and/or having casual relationships doesn't make you a freak or a failure.
And a man who wants to move in with you after 3 weeks is quite possibly a cocklodger or indeed a nasty little shit of a narcissist. Does he say you're the only one who understands him, by any chance?

emogedden Thu 24-Sep-09 23:49:40

Ali not annoying as such. It's oh it's hard to explain.

It's like ummm ok....It is like we have been together for 4 years instead a month.

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