Had a conversation with a single, childless friend yesterday which really got me thinking.
She accused me of having no time for her, hardly ever calling her anymore and just not making the effort.
I didn't even know where to begin with defending myself. Should I start with the fact that I struggle to fit it all in? That in between full time work, keeping the house from descending into a shit tip, making sure my husband doesn't feel neglected, looking after two kids (one with SN) and working my way down the ever-expanding list of Things To Do, I barely have time to sleep let alone check in regularly with high maintenance friends?
In the end, I didn't bother. I said I was sorry she felt that way, heard her out, mumbled a few half hearted words about trying harder to see her more regularly, and then hung up feeling mightily fucked off.
Advice please? How do you manage the change in friendships when you have kids and they don't and you are both just worlds apart in your every day lives and expectations of friendships...?
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Friendships after kids
SamMitchell · 20/09/2009 11:02
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