The background; DH and DSS lived with his parents after his first wife died which meant MIL forgot she was DSS's Nanny and not Mummy. We got married last year and it's been difficult as MIL hasn't coped with giving up her Mummy role to DSS and has interfered, causing us to be upset and DSS to be confused. DH has been amazing and spoken to her about it regularly and she then backs off for a little while then changes tactics.
We've bought a house and are doing it up before we move in. My Dad has been doing the bathroom/kitchen, FIL has been doing building bits with his boss. IL's were on holiday during the first week and MIL didn't react well when she found out my Mum had been helping during the first weekend. MIL asked if she could go in and 'wash down the woodwork' during the week when FIL was there. DH said yes (thinking she wouldn't do it) and it turns out she's been in 3 days this week (whilst we're at work) and started painting DSS's room. Thankfully the coloured paint isn't in the house so she's been sealing the plaster with white. The woodwork hasn't been cleaned or sanded so it's now been started in the 'wrong order' and we know she's just done this so she can tell DSS she has 'done his room' for him.
We know she means well but they're 'helping' tomorrow too which normally means MIL talks to you and you waste a few hours, then she naffs off leaving you to catch up and rush home to get DSS fed and in bed on time. We're also annoyed as we as DH puts it, feel we've been 'intruded' upon somehow, MIL has now told us what we need to do to our house (and thus we're feeling like it's not our home/project anymore) and FIL has somehow managed to get our spare door key off his boss.
Before you say it, I know she's meaning well, I know she's helping and we should be grateful, as DH said, it's just 'how' she's helping that's the problem. Added to this, I've just come off the pill so I suspect my hormones aren't right and really don't want to get annoyed or snappy with her tomorrow as I really do appreciate the sentiment, just not the reality of it.
Any ideas?!
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I know I'm being unreasonable about my MIL and am trying to get over myself-any ideas?
randomtask · 18/09/2009 10:33
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