hi ladies, im having an awful time at the mo. Got very stressed during week as hubbie is working a lot with new job and i feel like i have to do everything. Anyway, GP signed me off for a few wks. Last nite hubbie was going out for few drinks with his pals. The last time he went out was December, (jus after i miscarried) he got so so drunk, left the pub hours before his mates and disappeared. He rang me at 3am to say he was in a really dodgy part of town. Obv i panicked and jumped in car and flew to collect him only to find that he wasnt there at all. I drove the streets for about an hr looking for him - couldnt find him and drove home to find him lying drunk on the footpath outside our door. He apologised the next day etc and to be honest he hasnt really been out since.
So last nite when he was going out I was obviously concerned about a repeat performance and kept on saying that he needed to act responsibility with bubs on the way. He swore to me he would. So...he left the house at 10pm, rang me at 11.30 to say where he was and then nothing. At 2am i tried his mobile but he had no signal, I rang from 2 to 3,40 without hearing a thing. Then he answered at 3,45 and mumbled that he was in the local village. I drove there and found him half unconscious on the pavement. I was so humiliated. Managed to get him in car and home.
BUT this morning when he woke up, I said to him that i thought it was ridicoulous to drink himself into that sort of state etc. He told me i needed to F* UP, all he did was get drunk with his mates. In my opinion thats not getting drunk thats taking it a step too far. I was so mad. I left the house about 3pm today without saying much more to him and just got home to an empty house. I rang his mobile 3 times and he isnt answering. i text him saying 'you need to ring, where are you' and he wrote back 'watching football, whats wrong'.
Surely its totally out of order for him to behave this way. Is it appropriate for him to get so so drunk and then tell me its harmless. I mean he cant even manage a simple nite out anymore, i cant rely on him to get himself home. I'm driving the streets in the early hrs of the morning looking for him! Im nearly 6 months pregnant!!! And then for him to behave this way today. Im so so angry but if i tell him im cross he says im out of order. Am I???? Please help, we have only been married a year and im starting to worry Ive made a huge mistake. I dont know where else to go for advice.
Mumsnet has not checked the qualifications of anyone posting here. If you need help urgently or expert advice, please see our domestic violence webguide and/or relationships webguide. Many Mumsnetters experiencing domestic abuse have found this thread helpful: Listen up, everybody
Relationships
Please help - not long married and its a disaster - or am i over-reacting?
bubbles8987 · 09/08/2009 17:19
Don’t want to miss threads like this?
Weekly
Sign up to our weekly round up and get all the best threads sent straight to your inbox!
Log in to update your newsletter preferences.
You've subscribed!
To comment on this thread you need to create a Mumsnet account.