I dont even know where to start, could really do with siome advise.
DH is lovely, he is kind and caring and helpful. I am not happy and I dont really know why. we have talked aout it again and again but nothing changes, I think it is my fault not dh's. everywhere I look people are having fun I have fun, dh has fun, just never together.
Earlier in the year dh suffered with depression, he wouldnt get any help, he lodt his job. in the last few weeks he has started a new job and is really happy. I have also returned to work after 5.5yrs off.
I have been spending a lot of time with my single friends both withj and without dc and having a great time. I dont want to comne home at night.
This week I have been thining a lot about leaving dh, but I dont really know why, he hasnt done anything wrong, i am just bnored, I want to do stuff and have fun, dh is happy to plod along and be content.
Dh is away this weekend and I have decided to use the time to wiork out what I want.
If I did leave him I would lose everything, I couldnt afford our house, he wouldnt give me the dc without a fight. I dont want to lose everything but I dont weant to live the rest of my life just ok, ~I want to be happy. I can see that if I did leave dh I w9ould be far from happy, but if I stay I am not sure it is for the right reasons.
I dont want to ruin the kids lives because I am selfish.
I am a mess and I hae no idea what to do, do I brush it under the carpet and carry on, or do something that would have such enormous fall out.
I came of ad's about a month ago and am wondering if they have just been masking all this.
Last year my mum tried to cmmit suicide because she could see no other way out of her miserable life, I dont want to end up liike that, but i dont want to give her all the stress that anything I did would cause.
I thinnk I am just being selfish and having a midlife crisis or something.
Please give me your take on things.
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How do you sort out your marriage when you are miserable with everything
thesockmonsterofdoom · 17/07/2009 10:58
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