...and never has done!
he is healthy, he is straight, he is (fairly) young, and he loves me. but he finds sex boring. even back in the early days he wasn't too keen, and at first i even thought he was gay, because he was so indifferent about sex and not sexually driven, like most other men.
he's not interested in porn and he finds sexy underwear hilarious, so there is no way i can think of how to spice things up...
we've had sex twice in the last 18 months.
i'm only glad that my libido isn't what it used to be before having kids, but once a year is not enough for me! with previous BF, even after years, we had sex at least every two days. i'd be happy about once a week now...
we've been sleeping in different rooms for a while (all to do with sleeping arrangements during last pregnancy, BFin the baby etc., NOT because we don't like each other). before that, the only times we would have sex was, at night, when DH woke up and we would initially cuddle, and it all went from there... it was great, because it always was such a (pleasant) surprise.
the whole thing makes me feel rather worthless as a woman. many other men find me sexually attractive, but (of course) i ignore any advances. i'm not the type of person to start an affair, so i'm trapped with the outlook of rarely, if ever, having sex again.
DH is (very) happy with the current state of things, and if we went to a councelling or whatever and he were talked into having sex for my sakes i would feel bad about that - having to beg for sex in a marriage, as a woman, that does not feel right at all...
anybody else have a similar problem (can't imagine that...)?
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DH doesn't like sex...
nybom · 08/07/2009 12:10
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