Hey everyone,
This is my first ever Mumsnet posting, I am really in need of some advice or just someone to hear me.
My dh and I moved abroad 9 months ago when our dd was 3 months old, and we thought it would be the solution to all our problems. While we are much better off financially, it is driving us apart. We live high up in the mountains in a tiny village, and I am so lonely. I have tried to fit into the village but it is very hard, my German is not so hot and people here find me strange. I feel as if I have given up my whole life - no job, no friends, nowhere to go, nothing to do. Although it's great for a child, my dd has started wanting to see Brum brums and loves to see different places and lots of people. There are only so many times you can go and say moo to the cows, believe me. Also, I don't think it's ideal that she only meets very conservative white well off people.
DH is absorbed in his new job and says we have no choice but to stay here a few years. A FEW YEARS!!! I can't stand it. I have got to the point of seriously considering moving back to England or even to a city here without him. I still love him but he does not seem to understand why I am not happy. Also we have not had sex in 18 months and I don't feel like he fancies me anymore, or even sees me at all. As long as I look after the baby and clean the house occasionally. Of course he speaks 100 languages (ok, seven) and doesn't see why I get so frustrated trying to learn ONE.
My dd loves her dad and I don't want to split up the family. But I am really dying inside. I miss having friends so badly, and I have nothing of my own, no money, no job. He refuses to have a joint account (I don't understand why) so I have to ask him for money for groceries and things for dd and I can never buy anything for myself. This makes me feel that he is in charge and I am just a skivy rather than being a team. I've tried to talk to him but he simply says we have no choice. What can I do???
Thanks if you have read this far.
Sally
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