Used to have reasonable relationship with myin-laws all the time I put up and shut up as it were but ever since I've had my baby have been standing up to them more. So many examples but to give you an idea: father-in-law would frequently take me aside in front of husband and have a go at me about something, most memorable occasion was at a wedding where he told me off about stopping my driving lessons! Refused to shake my dads hand when my dad went to greet him after not seeing him for a while. Had a go at my 80 year grandad who wasnt able to help move a wardrobe because of his age... they exclude my dad (because hes iranian) and my brothers from christmas cards they send, addressing it only to my mum. Frequently bully my husband until hes a nervous wreck and once screamed at us because we asked if they could help do the flowers for our wedding (they own their own garden nursery). Screamed at my husband when our 6 month baby was in hospital because they didnt 'update' him enough on what was going on. So many examples. They have now moved to France and are using our house as a base for visits back to the UK. Next visit is in a couple of weeks and I am dreading it. Asked them if they could stay in hotel because our daughter sleeps in our spare room and we dont have sofa bed etc they said no. They're staying 4 nights and will expect to be waited on hand and foot. My point really (after rambling on!) is what can I do? My husbands already said they can stay but surely its not reasonable to have to wait on 2 rude adults who are so tight with money (despite being quite well off and owning a 7 bedroomed house in france)they spend hours shopping in tesco lookin for a £1 t-shirt for their only grandaughter. I'm thinking of being so unpolite when they stay they wont ask to stay again.... Sorry for this rambling message, really just wanted to vent!
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My in-laws are awful and I mean awful, how do other people get on with theirs and am I being unreasonable?
louise301 · 03/07/2008 13:27
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