I posted on here recently as my partner wasn't helping me with our baby. We argued like cat and dog. Eventually I've reached out to family and to buy my own car to get some freedom and after a number of shouty arguments he has called it a day. We literally bought our house together a month ago and DD is not even 5 months old. We're not married and she's fully breastfed. He's lazy and says I do nothing for him. Issue is he doesn't realise that as a father he should do stuff for us. He wanted me to cook dinner everyday after work from when she was 6 weeks old etc. He's a pig. But I feel sad because we were so good at the beginning.
To an extent I'm okay with the relationship ending. I love him but equally know I deserve more support and compassion than what I've got so far.
My issue is that he said today he wants 50% custody. I don't agree as baby is fully breastfed and doesn't even take a bottle atm. Even if she did, his involvement has been so little that I'd be worried how she would cope without me for an extended period of time. Longest she's ever been away was 3 hours and she cried after 2.
What do I do?
Im due to go back to work in 6 months (hopefully 4 days each week and little one in nursery) and am fully financially independent. Have good family and friends. I'm just terrified of him having my baby and her needing me. He's on the birth certificate and should be involved, but not to that extent in my view when she's so little. I'm shocked he's even suggested it. What have been other mums experiences of this? I could really do with a hand hold. I'm going to get advice but can't sleep and really need some reassurance.
Mumsnet has not checked the qualifications of anyone posting here. If you need help urgently or expert advice, please see our domestic violence webguide and/or relationships webguide. Many Mumsnetters experiencing domestic abuse have found this thread helpful: Listen up, everybody
Relationships
My partner has called it a day. Young baby. What next?
HornbeamLane · 23/11/2020 23:54
Don’t want to miss threads like this?
Weekly
Sign up to our weekly round up and get all the best threads sent straight to your inbox!
Log in to update your newsletter preferences.
You've subscribed!
To comment on this thread you need to create a Mumsnet account.