My husband hasn’t been happy for a few years now and i never see him smile! He’s angry sullen resentful and says I’m not the woman he married 10 years ago.
He says I have changed since the death of my son in law in traumatic circumstances 4 years ago. He was like a son to me and he and my daughter was the happiest couple with a brood of 7 children the youngest was only 3 when he died from sepsis 10 days after a vasectomy , in the family home. We all as a family suffered from some degree of ptsd after this and of course I have helped my daughter with the children while she got her life back together . He now says all my energy goes on my family and there is nothing left for him?! He says I should be over it by now 🤦♀️The straw that broke the camels back is 3 weeks ago my son and his fiancée split up and he asked if he could come back home while he sorted his head out ...6 months max . I told my husband and he was not happy but we are in the middle of a pandemic we have a spare room so he’s here .
You can cut the atmosphere with a knife my husband is so hostile. My son stays in his room it’s so uncomfortable. He said it’s the last straw and tonight he said he is leaving me ... His reasons he didn’t sign up to live with a 30 year old man , and he can’t live with someone with my level of anxiety ( which I’ve had since the death of my daughters husband. He said he feels resentful that his life isn’t going how he thought it would. Am I missing something am I wrong for helping my children when they need it. ?
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Marriage over after traumatic event
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Lottiesnanny · 12/11/2020 22:08
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