Just that really?
It completely baffles me. Mainly my own mother. Any comment of 'im feeling quite tired today' is followed by my mother saying 'thats life' & 'im tired too'. I do get it's inevitable im tired a lot as I'm solo parenting a toddler and school aged child by myself. So I maybe say it more than she would like to hear. I just feel irritated by the continued dismissal. I am not looking for glorified sympathy or an opinion. I think I don't realise I'm saying it mostly until her opinions follow. I then get 'you don't go to bed early enough' or 'you don't look after yourself'. This irritates me to the core because I am never without my children. I have them all of the time which yes I know that's being a parent. I don't have 1 day a week where someone else takes my kids for a break or any time for that matter, I know a lot of people don't.
However more recently I became unwell maybe a very bad cold or even the flu. I couldn't move as I was so dizzy and weak. She offered to take my toddler for the night which I was highly highly greatful for, although she collected him half an hour before he was due to go to bed and phoned me first thing in the morning to say she has stuff to do can she drop him off. Of course I said yes. I was still unwell for days after this and I feel guilty that my children are somewhat neglected while I was unwell as I just did not have the energy for much.
It got me thinking, if I were to be unwell with anything more serious or say covid! I would be terrified as to how I could look after my kids.
When I was unwell my mother would say things like 'im sure it's just a cold' 'people manage all the time with kids and being unwell' 'im sure it's not as bad as your saying' 'your a hypochondriac'
It makes me feel so flat, it would just be nice for her to say 'awch that's not nice your not feeling well, can I help out' even if she couldn't take the kids, come round for a couple of hours to mine to entertain them or make them food.
Am I being too sensitive? I know my kids are my responsibility but I just feel like as my mother she sees first hand how exhausted I am. I don't go out, I don't see friends (because I can't), everything I do is with my kids and for my kids, I don't pan them off on anyone else, she is the only one I ask to look after them on the odd occasion and this is always an issue. She doesn't work, my dad does, they are very comfortable in life, she's very fit and able and not old at all.
It would be nice sometimes for her to want to take her grandchildren. Like even be like, can I take them to the park?
Father isn't in the picture so she is my only support and I have no siblings.
What's your thoughts?
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Why are people reluctant to beleive when your unwell?
Yesnoyesnoyesnoyes · 30/08/2020 11:51
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