I do not know where to start but I just need to tell someone.
I have been married for ten years. Happy marriage. We do not have a physical relationship and have not since the birth of our daughter six years ago.
I have no sexual feelings towards him, or towards anyone.
I have not spoken to anyone about this as I am simply too embarrassed and ashamed.
We do not talk about it, however on occasions he will try to initiate it and I feel awful but I never reciprocate his advances.
He is a good husband and father, probably the most respectful and kind man I have ever had a relationship with.
I cannot name any faults he has and he is a very hands on father.
I could live the rest of my days this way though and that makes me sad.
There is little affection on a day to day basis, he does try but I just don't feel anything physically towards him.
All previous relationships I had a healthy sex drive, in fact a high sex drive in one relationship so why do I feel this way?
I am early forties and do not think I am peri menopausal. I do not use any contraceptive so no issues with hormonal interference.
Am I really abnormal?
Please do not tell me to leave as that is not what I want.
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Not had sex with husband for five years
nooneknowshowifeel · 23/08/2020 20:52
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