A few months ago we had a brief falling out, because she doesn't drive and asked me for a lift which I couldn't manage. It was not particularly important, although possibly to her. Was to get a friends child's bike fixed which her child had broken. Previously I would give her lifts no problem, but I now work full time and it's difficult. I had my own plans for the weekend which she said weren't important...I felt this to be offensive as it's my time and not hers to judge.
However, she apologised a few days later, said she valued my friendship and was going in a taxi.
Yet now she's fallen out with me again...
This time it was 6pm and I was just on way home from work and had family plans for the evening.
She said her drug addict brother needed help as he had checked himself out of a mental hospital and needed picking up, she was begging.
I said I couldn't and she told me not to bother with her again as I'm no friend.
I have helped her in the past and I feel now she is taking advantage of me. I am currently trying to stop being such a walkover so am enforcing my boundaries.
Have I been too harsh? I feel she must see me as a bit of a mug and I told her so but got no reply.
I feel like friendship shouldn't be transactional but not sure if I'm right here.
What do you think?
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Was my friend taking advantage of me?
quirkybird3 · 22/07/2020 06:30
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