I’m a FTM and 16 weeks. I told my parents very early on I was pregnant due to social distancing and trying to shield.
At first my mother reacted the way I thought she would; super excited,etc. But as time has gone on I can’t help but notice that the excitement isn’t for me and my husband but just because she will be a grandma; I’m not even sure she’s bothered there’s a baby at the end of the pregnancy?!
When it came to 12 weeks I explained that we were only telling close family and friends as we had some tests we were waiting on before telling anyone else. As soon as we told close family, my mother saw this as a green light to tell every man and his dog.
I was really anxious for the test results and she brushed them off as if they were irrelevant; almost as if that was the only thing holding her back from sharing the news. And once she’d told everyone, I didn’t even get a text or a phone call asking if we’d received the results/the outcome.
Since this point she’s shown little interest in my pregnancy and when she does ask and I share a concern she shows no empathy or support whatsoever, almost comes across as though her asking was an inconvenience or that I’m being dramatic.
I could go on. I know being a grandparent for the first time is exciting, but I feel like she is forgetting the vital fact that her daughter is carrying the child. Is this normal behaviour?
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Any one a first time mum and disappointed with how their mother is acting?
PipTed · 07/06/2020 02:13
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