Is sex with your SO the best you’ve ever had?

[Poppygirl96]

And if not does it matter much to you in your relationship? Just trying to gather an idea of how important people find it in a relationship

[Greenkit]

Sex with my new SO is the best ever, and it's very important. As I have now realised after 29yrs of bad sex.

[ComtesseDeSpair]

It’s among the best and it’s very important to me. I have lots of really good friends: I don’t want just friendship from my partner so I place a lot of importance on sex.

If neither of you think sex is particularly important generally then a relationship can probably survive if it isn’t very good. But it also depends why it isn’t good - if it’s not good because he isn’t interested in what you like or because you don’t communicate very well then that’s a wider relationship problem.

[Kel9]

Yep sex with my man is the best I’ve ever had 🥰 I just look at him and want to take his ass to bed lol

[Safiyah2020]

Yes for me it is with my husband.

[RLEOM]

Sex with my ex was unsatisfying and he was selfish in bed (and had a porn addiction). I don't think I could've put up with that for the rest of my days.

I always used to say it's not important but it is. It really is.

[SueEllenMishke]

Yes and we both think it's very important.
We actually said that the only up side social distancing is that we'll have more time to have sex. We even made a few purchases from lovehoney last night in anticipation.

[labazsisgoingmad]

it is partly because there are no secrets between us we can talk to each other tell each other what we want or need.
also we feel comfortable with each other not a one night stand etc when you dont know a person you kind of grow into each other

[MMadness]

Not the best I've ever had, no.

But we have an extremely healthy and fulfilling sex life and at times blows my mind.

It's a massively important aspect to me.

[Pineaurouge]

Yes he is the best i've had. He knows my body and is very generous with his attention . Very important part of my relationship!

[MildDrPepperAddiction]

Yep, it's an important part of a relationship imo.

With my husband it is the best and we both put effort into maintaining that.

[eaglebay]

No, but he's definitely up there!

[Shodan]

God yes

I had an okay sex life with XH, but never truly fancied him. Didn't think I was "made that way", tbh.

BUT with DP- I can't get enough of him. I've become a bit of a perv around him (which he loves, by the way!)

It's as huge a part of our relationship as our friendship and I feel very lucky. It took me a long time though - I'm 51 now.

[SecretWitch]

Sadly, no. Sex with my first husband was amazing.

It appears that my current husband and I are in a quasi roommate relationship. We share the same bed, adore our daughter and seem to be good friends.

We have no plans to separate or divorce but I’m so sad that the passion is gone.

[concertlover]

In the early years of our marriage, yes. But for too long we've been as SecretWitch describes it: "quasi roommates".

[Sunflowersok]

Yes, it really is. Even though at the moment we are having a few small issues in the bedroom, how we are open and communicate and understand and over come them solidifies that even more.

[PrawnSacrifice]

No, not by a long chalk.

[SciFiScream]

Yes. Sadly not as often as either of us would like it though!

[CrazylazyJane]

Nope!

But with the mediocre sex life comes the security of knowing my SO accepts me for who and what I am. It's not idea but after a chaotic 20s of one night stands and insecurity, I welcome a bog standard sex life.

[Glassio]

same as @crazylazyjane

[Ilikethemhotnearly40]

I'm being a bit dim but what does SO mean?

[userxx]

Significant other

[IndieTara]

Sex with my ex was unsatisfying as he tried to hide his ED behind kinky stuff. I'm 53 not stupid...

[Ilikethemhotnearly40]

Ohhh thanks userxx

[Robin233]

Yes best ever with dh :)

[riotlady]

Yes, but it wouldn’t be a deal breaker if he wasn’t, so long as it was still good.