Have NCd for this thread.
We don’t currently live together but have been talking about it for some time.
We normally spend most of our time together at mine. I go to his for Christmas and other family occasions. He has 4 adult children and I have 2. Everyone gets on ok although one of his daughters doesn’t like me. After trying for a long time to gradually win her trust and forge a friendship I have accepted that polite frostiness from her is the best I’ll get.
DP and I are discussing marriage and where we would live. He wants me to move in with him which on the surface would make sense as it is a lot bigger than mine. However I really don’t like the idea of moving into what was his marital home. His ex and mother of children is still a big part of his life and I get on with her for the sake of DP and his children/grandchildren. But when she is around in his house I feel like they are still married and I am a spare part in the home they built together as a family.
The reason he kept the house was because the youngest 2 were still school age when she had an affair and left to be with OM. They decided that it made sense for him to buy her out so that the children had as little upheaval as possible.
He has brought up the subject of selling the house with the children and it was met with great objection, unsurprisingly in particular from the daughter that doesn’t like me.
DP is torn and is now reluctant to sell. I would like a fresh start though and make our own home together.
I wouldn’t go as far as to say it’s a dealbreaker but we are at stalemate.
If anyone has experience of this I’d be grateful for any advice. TIA
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Moving into partner’s family home
NewBrideToBe · 14/02/2020 13:02
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