I sort of know the answer but I need some other perspectives on it so please bear with me.
Yesterday I left my husband.
Yesterday morning he hit our 5 year old son around the head over some trivial issue and threw him out of the room. When I intervened and stood between him and our son, he became extremely verbally abusive, calling me a f*ing bitch and a 'shit mother' and shouting at me to get out. This was infront of all three of our children. I left managing to take the children only because I threatened to phone the police if he did not allow me to go.
Later I spoke to him on the phone. He said he did not believe that he had done anything wrong and that he wanted a divorce because I do not give him enough sex.
This is the second really bad incident. Approx 14 months ago he was so out of control threatening to kill me and terrifying the children, on that occasion I was so frightened I did call the police who were excellent. They threatened to remove him from the property to the 'cells' if there was another such incident within 2 years.This is why he allowed me to leave yesterday.
He is often verbally aggressive and abusive to me and about me to the children, I know this is wrong but he says it is not. I feel that I am losing all sense of what is normal in a marriage.
So that is my first question - what is normal ?
next does anyone have any practical advice? He has been at home looking after the children for the last 16 month. I am terrified that he might get custody - is this likely ?
I have now left the marital home and am at my brothers house - I can stay for a few days but will have to go home soon as the children need to go back to school etc. is there any way I can make him leave the house?
thanks so much if anyone has some good advice
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lemonstartree · 26/08/2007 21:22
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