NC because I know dh has seen previous threads.
I've posted about problems with dh and porn before in other threads, this is no longer an issue as the addiction has been dealt with, the conversations had, etc. To be clear, according to him, he did not use it in order to have a wank, he enjoyed the sexual thrill it gave him to look, many times a day. So this current issue is not related to views on or use of porn.
In those threads, I had been accused of controlling his masturbation. Which clearly is not the case, if he wasn't using it for this purpose.
Dh has always stated he had a higher sex drive, not the case, but at the time he started using this excuse I had birth injuries, small DC over a period of many years, him working away a lot and expecting me to be interested all the time as soon as he was home. Without effort on his part, to make the workload less, or me feel valued, etc.
This has led to the current issue of him seeing to himself, which means come bedtime, he's done and nothing is going to happen. I partly understand the problem, as he's tired from work and maybe can't be bothered interacting with me, but it's meant that there's no spontaneity anymore, as he can't 'rise to the occasion' twice a day anymore. DC are still young and in the house, so we can not be spontaneous earlier in the day. Don't even feel like it at the point. If something is suggested for later, chances are he's too tired by bedtime, so nothing happens. Then he'll sort himself in the shower the next day, problem starts again.
Would I be unreasonable to ask him to stop?
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Is this really unreasonable? (Dh seeing to himself. )
Alondonleerie · 23/01/2019 23:30
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