So, there's this guy, who is very nice, we met on a night out early last year. He periodically comes over for a shag if invited, and has occasionally suggested it himself (on average we meet up once every three/four weeks).
He shares a flat/house (have never been) with a woman/girl (never met her) and has his son at weekends. I have my own place.
He is as odd as two left feet.
However, in his defence, he knows I'm OLD and usually go to the same pub as he frequents on various dates.
He is very complimentary about me, but just seems backwards at coming forwards or else is just content with the odd shag here and there.
We have a lot in common (similar backgrounds).
I stopped speaking to him for about a month as I was in the pub one evening alone and he ignored me for the evening, then texts! me to see if I fancied a shag. I gave him a proper bollocking as he didn't even have the manners to speak to me in the pub. So I point blank ignored him for 4 - 6 weeks, while still going to same pub (I also go to salsa class there).
I'm not sure what part of this is his shyness/awkwardness etc. and what is what really. He knows a lot of the people in the pub and possibly is too shy to be demonstratively dating someone or, perhaps the ex's friends also drink there (as I said I know nothing about the ex, but the ds is 3 or 4 maybe now).
He doesn't impose on my life in any way. Doesn't get jealous etc.
He's not taking from my life and is for all intents and purposes a friend with benefits - a shag when I feel like it.
However.......
I'm curious to know whether 1. I want to get to know him more and 2. How to go about that!?
Any suggestions?
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What would you make of this 'arrangement'?
Wotev · 10/01/2019 20:20
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