I'm 34 so should really not care, but I tried coming out to my mother as bisexual and polyamorous last week, and she was horrible to me. Completely intolerant and just starting attacking my whole being - not my choices, just me for being 'not normal'. Telling me over an over again that she doesn't know what is wrong with me.
I know she's just ignorant and has a very narrow world view, but I wish she could just be happy that I am happy.
I know polyamory doesn't necessarily have a good reputation on these boards, but it works for me. It's the relationship style that works for me individually - it doesn't mean I don't think monogamy is also a good thing too (obviously I am getting a little defensive, possible without needing to).
I didn't choose to be bisexual, it's not "a phase" and I am not "trying to be different" No one wants to be something that parts of society have trouble tolerating and has a load of misconceptions about - it's draining!
I feel upset and rejected and I found her to be aggressive and just horrible, but apparently only because she loves me. She has reacted like this whenever I have done anything remotely not as she expects of "her daughter", which has lead to me just hiding who I am around her over the years. I was sick of not being myself, so I just told her, even though I knew it would be awful
I know I shouldn't care, but I am really struggling to detach right now.
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Upset over my mother's lack of acceptance of me - LGBT
4173bg · 10/08/2018 10:33
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