I'll try to keep this as short as possible...
Basically, I am an alcoholic and my dp walked out to go to his mum's last weekend. He said he'd had enough of coming home to a drunk and I don't blame him for this.
However, when he was here he was out every week-night training until between 8:30 and 9:30pm, did at least 4 hours of training on a Saturday and 2 hours on a Sunday. This was in addition to having his DD every weekend although I admit his DM takes most of the slack for that because of his training schedule.
He was becoming more and more nasty to me over the last few months and saying things which really upset me. He says now that he knows he was a dick to me and this was because he was sick of my drinking and sort of took on a 'I don't give a fuck' attitude. He says he does want us to be together and loves me but that I need to get help and show I'm determined to stop drinking. I agree. However, I do feel that in the same way he did not cause my drinking, I didn't cause him to be a dick and be nasty. Does anybody agree with this or can they see why he would have behaved like this?
I've told him that I know I have to make big changes but I feel that he also needs to change and compromise if we are to make this work. I'm now 6 days sober which is my longest time without alcohol for months as normally I was drinking everyday. I have no intention of drinking and am going to my first counselling session tomorrow. I can't help feeling abandoned in a way and am totally on my own but this might be selfish of me. Just as he left me all week to go out and do his own thing, I feel he has now left me when I am at my most vulnerable. I understand that he can't and shouldn't live with me at the minute but wish he would even suggest meeting for coffee for an hour to get me out of the house. I feel so lonely.
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Alcoholic and feeling lonely
Username36 · 15/06/2018 20:01
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