I’ve seen a lot about self esteem written on these boards.
Posters are often advised that they need to work on improving their self esteem, as this is the source of jealousy in their relationship.
I’m suffering from low self esteem I think. My question is this: how do you improve your self esteem? What practical things do you put in place?
To give a bit of context - I work with my DP and a few years ago, he behaved inappropriately (in my view) with one of our colleagues. I don’t think he had a physical affair but he definitely fancied her (in my opinion). He denies that he did but he stared at her bum in front of me, he stood me up to go out for drinks with her and generally ran around doing stuff for her that he didn’t do for me.
From that point on, i felt like I changed completely. I went from a secure person who didn’t worry about things to a person who is tense a lot of the time. If we are passing women, I wait for him to stare at them. I worry when he goes out with friends.
We have a new person starting at work and I’m tying myself up in knots about who it will be and imagining him behaving like he did with the other colleague. I don’t even know if the person is male or female.
I know this isn’t healthy so how can I improve my self esteem and learn to trust? Would counselling help?
I’m sorry for the length of this post.
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NormskiNamechange · 07/06/2018 07:11
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