Me I mean, with her. We were sort of acquaintances for years (overlapping social circles) and I’ve always liked her. DC’s of similar ages and live fairly similar lives.
My relationship broke down about five years ago and was single for a long time after. Then a few months later, I heard that she’d left her DH for another man and they got divorced. Unfortunately the new relationship didn’t work out and she has also been single since.
About 2 years ago, I bumped into her ex-husband at a conference and we ended up going for a drink. We had such a great time and it was all very unexpected but we fell in love over time and are now about to move in together.
I have a good relationship with his DC’s, he has a good relationship with mine and also his ex-wife and I get along. At a distance to be fair, but we respect and I think we actually like each other too.
However, a few of my friends thinks it is really weird and that we should not become friends as it’s messed up.
I am certain that there are no romantic feelings between my DP and her, the marriage had been over for years by the time she left. They were living like siblings and had not had any kind of sexual relationship for very many years, since the youngest was born.
She is on her own and last Christmas, we invited her over to have lunch with us and both sets of DC’s as it was his “turn” to have the kids for Xmas and I felt sorry that she was going to be by herself. She doesn’t have any other family close.
As I say, I trust that the relationship between DP and her is a purely platonic one. They were friends for years before they got married and TBH, I think it was a sort of marriage of convenience as they both wanted children and hadn’t found the right person to have them with and time was ticking by rather than a great passion between them.
Am I tempting fate by inviting her to be so close? Am I being naive and foolish to extend a hand of friendship?
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Is it possible to be friends with the ex wife?
NCforthisthread18 · 27/05/2018 14:01
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