Just want some outsiders views on this.
I've been with my boyfriend for just over 6 months. It's going ok, he's a great guy and treats me really well although he can be a bit needy and intense at times. He says he's never been like this before but I make him feel needy.
A bit of info.... I'm 47 and 4 years out of a 25 year relationship and have my own place I live in with my son. He is 42, and still lives with his parents. He's lived with people before but just seems to end up back home, his longest relationship was about 6 years.
Anyway I tend to see him once during the week and at weekends, it's more than enough for me but he's not happy with this and says after six months I should be committing more. The key point is he wants to live with me and I said after six months it's a ridiculous conversation to be having and not something I would consider for years yet if ever. He says what's the point waiting and what will I know in two years time that I don't know now and he also says we will only ever know if we're compatible if we live together. I've told him no way, it's not on the agenda.
I told him if he had his own place he wouldn't be bothered about living with me and that at his age he shouldn't be living with his parents anyway. They get on his nerves, and I'm sure he gets on theirs. His relationship with his dad is pretty non existent and he could afford to go and rent somewhere yet he doesn't, just stays and then moans about them.
He is a great guy, very kind and caring, adores me ( probably too much) and whilst I do care about him he doesn't set my world on fire.
So...... after six months is the moving in conversation normal or is it just utterly crazy! My mind boggles as to why after getting out of a controlling marriage would I turn move someone into my home, and I fail to see why he can't understand that and just looks on it as rejection. I'm thinking I may be better off just finishing it so he can find someone who wants the same things he does, because I just feel trapped now and under pressure and it started me thinking maybe it's me who's being unreasonable and not him.
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Is it me or him??
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