So ok yes turns out old wives had a point - eavesdroppers apparently do only hear bad of themselves.
I saw a text on DH phone where he said horrible things about my weight to a mate of his. (Yes I’ve put on around 8kg lately - because work/Home has been really busy & stressful & I just haven’t looked after myself).
I felt so sad & upset that he would say that out loud to someone. Something that I feel really down & vulnerable about right now.
He’s never said it to my face & is great at saying he loves me, he fancies me & reassuring me when I’m down about it, saying that it doesn’t matter.
To add to this - I then scrolled back up the texts he had with this mate & saw lewd chat about women he’d seen in bars. Again - he’s not like this at all. I’ve only ever seen him being respectful to women and he despises this type of behaviour in others.
We’ve always (I thought) been really open & honest with each other. We know our phone lock codes & often use whoever’s phone is closest for google/calling parents/taking to walk the dog/etc. I just feel so angry at him, I can barely speak to him and can’t seem to let it go. And he doesn’t know what I’m upset about and keeps asking what’s wrong.
So what should I do?
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I read a text I shouldn’t have...what do I do now?
Singaporeslings · 04/12/2017 00:22
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