So, my best friend has been with bf since September.
He has always been a bit odd ? maybe but just these last few days she went to his home (4hours away) for a few days, she's come back over (we are housemates also) and it's got weird.
We went out on a night out, and he wanted her to 'check in' evry 1-1.5 hours, this alarmed me, she said things like 'he's lovely' 'he's a gentleman' 'he's just worried about me' bearing in mind this is the place we live, she was with three good friends who all care about a lot.
At one point, friend asked me to check in with the bf, by sending a message from her phone, I agreed because she asked me to do it, put her mind at ease etc etc. She was sat next to me as I typed, but didn't feel able to herself - a night out after all.
I sent a quick, nice message - this is J, X asked me to msg you to let u know she's fine etc etc.
He replied with a really long, hostile message like give her her phone back she needs to ring me.
I told friend, she said ' he just gets funny like that'
Other friend said something like don't worry about him you've let him know, just enjoy yrself.
Friend v emotional and sad (way more than usual).
We got the bus, on the way back we had general chat i.e. chips when we get home, and friend kept saying I need to ring X, he'll be so mad.
Her phone died, other friend sent msg along same lines, he replied with weird message again. Friend whose bf it is rang him, lots of apologising, which I was uncomfortable with.
He also has temper issues, hates me, dislikes other friends, told her not to get the implant because HE doesn't want her to have it.
HE also keeps talking about what he'd do if she were to get pregnant. They are 18&19 and she is firm she doesn't want a baby for a good few years.
She's also being saying like of ' I know you hate him'. I don't I want her to be happy, before they were in a relationship me and him had a political disagr because he was being v racist, which I do not like at all.
What should I do? I love my best friend to pieces, but she is vulnerable ( I think) and keeps saying how stupid she is, how clever he is. I just want her to be happy.
We all go to the same uni, he lives nearby and tbh has no friends over here except her.
Thankyou all XX
X said she wants to go home, so we did
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Best friend's boyfriend - control?
caremummy · 29/11/2017 04:09
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