Have decided to well and truly get ducks in a row. Seems my DH has moved on from over communicating with our assistant and also a previous very old EA to hardcore online porn (usually female on female stuff) whenever I’m not around and often several times a day. It’s like someone has to replace one buzz with another. I did ask a while ago and he said he uses it occasionally when away and I’m ok with that, however this is clearly not the case. Can’t see any paid stuff anywhere, but lots of ‘amateur’ stuff and ‘girlfriends’ stuff. I am pretty upset, at the moment he is meant to be doing everything to prove he is trustworthy and whilst I have seen nothing in RL saying he isn’t, I draw the line at prolific secret use, whether free or not. I have upped this aspect slightly in our life to see if it made a difference and it hasn’t. I don’t want to get into a ‘porn is all ok’ debate, as I’m not anti it in moderation . It just seems to me he gets off on secrecy, and replaces one thing with another. Anyone else had this and decided to tell them to do one. I have to be honest, it is totally putting me off that aspect of our lives. I haven’t by the way installed spyware, I’ve just checked on the router traffic (as it shows all, whether private browsing or not) I appreciate the trust has gone and that’s reason enough to leave anyway, but I do like to have reasons, especially when I stayed after an old EA. I feel so gobsmacked , we have been good friends, together 21 years and I am to be honest somewhat disgusted.
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