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Hash v wine

(29 Posts)
XXpeepsXX48 Sat 21-Oct-17 17:38:36

My man likes to get stoned every night,it’s his way of relaxing and switching off,am ok with that tbh. If I have a bottle of wine,he won’t talk to me for days. Wine was a way I could switch off and chill,and yes it could be a couple of bottles every 4 days,I never get stroppy,I do it in my own home and not in front of anyone as he is in bedroom leaving me to enjoy peace and watch crap on telly and I end up falling asleep,not off my face. He says I have a problem but ok for him to smoke a couple of very large joints every night, he is still not talking to me because I had two bottles on Monday night,it’s not fair. Today I decided to test myself to see how long I can go without a bottle of wine,I knew he smoked this stuff but shouldn’t he quit it too? We have no kids living at home they grown up. Please has anyone got any advice.many thankyous

MyBrilliantDisguise Sat 21-Oct-17 17:41:24

Can you clarify how much you'd drink in one evening?

AfunaMbatata Sat 21-Oct-17 17:42:30

Doesn’t sound a happy relationship. Do you actually like each other anymore?

XXpeepsXX48 Sat 21-Oct-17 17:44:02

It could be one or two depending on the stress of the day,always would not be working next day,so it would be every 4-6 days I would have wine,not every night,still too much though that I would agree

AnyFucker Sat 21-Oct-17 17:44:36

this is the best you can do with your life ? What a grim existence.

XXpeepsXX48 Sat 21-Oct-17 17:44:36

Bottles I ment to put in there

MyBrilliantDisguise Sat 21-Oct-17 17:44:59

But would you be drinking 2 bottles in one evening? It's unclear from your OP.

midnightflowers Sat 21-Oct-17 17:47:18

You drink 2 bottles of an evening?

TDHManchester Sat 21-Oct-17 17:47:41

I couldn't share the same house with a cannabis smoker

IfYouGoDownToTheWoodsToday Sat 21-Oct-17 17:49:07

2 bottles per night, just for you?

DearMrDilkington Sat 21-Oct-17 17:51:51

You both sound like addicts if I'm honest. His clearly got a cannabis addiction and your a binge drinker. 2 bottles of wine is far too much for one night.

Have you got any children?

Looserwoman Sat 21-Oct-17 17:52:17

I would not be happy with that much wine or the weed at all. The smell in your home must be awful.

DearMrDilkington Sat 21-Oct-17 17:53:18

Ah sorry just seen no kids at home.

I'd get rid of your partner and keep an eye on your drinking.

RealWomanOhYes Sat 21-Oct-17 17:53:52

2 bottles a time? That is a bit hardcore

Not commenting on the weed thing as I don't have a problem with weed smokers as long as they handle it ok

sooperdooper Sat 21-Oct-17 17:54:06

He's a hypocrite, 2 bottles is quite a lot but if it's not on a night you've got to get up for work and not every night it's not the end of the world

Why are you with him in general? You don't seem to like each other in general, what redeeming features does he have?

Cookingongas Sat 21-Oct-17 17:54:24

I’m sorry but you sound like you have a problem. Two bottles of wine 4-6 days a week is a huge amount. I do believe you have a problem.

Your husband also consumes an addictive substance, an illegal substance, in large quantity and is also, based on your op, addicted.

QuiteLikely5 Sat 21-Oct-17 17:55:10

Talk about the pot and kettle!

He's got a nerve!

RealWomanOhYes Sat 21-Oct-17 17:56:25

Maybe both agree to cut down? 2 joints isn't a lot but if he's smoking it every night and you're not drinking every night then it is a bit rich for him to moan.

Eolian Sat 21-Oct-17 17:56:27

I'd say neither was ok tbh. Two bottles of wine in one night is a hell of a lot. And one bottle a night is also a lot if you're doing it regularly.

Annoyed5678 Sat 21-Oct-17 18:00:04

I don't think the weed or the drink is your first problems here, he's getting trippy, not talking to you by sounds of it your living seperate lives within your house and you need to find out why its like that, what's causing so much stress you need to switch off. I would both give up your vices and start talking to each other see where you go from there

MrsTerryPratchett Sat 21-Oct-17 18:03:13

What’s good in your relationship? Because it sounds like he’d rather be stoned and judging you for being pissed. All in all not sounding healthy.

Great that you have decided to take a while off drinking. It might give you some clarity about your drinking and his drug use.

dorislessingscat Sat 21-Oct-17 18:05:15

You both have substance misuse problems. You should see your GP.

Branleuse Sat 21-Oct-17 18:11:17

I think tbh that youre in more immediate and real danger if youre necking two bottles of wine a night, than he is from a couple of spliffs, although in a relationship you would hope that you would both be on each others side rather than point scoring

catnoir Sat 21-Oct-17 18:32:16

So your drinking up to 2 bottles on average once a week? I wouldn’t class drinking once a week a drink problem as a lot of people drink at least once a week and have no problems? Maybe the 2 bottles is a little extreme and you must be very drunk with that amount? Smoking week every night means he’s mentally addicted to it and I would consider that a problem.

catnoir Sat 21-Oct-17 18:33:11

Read ops posts? She’s not drinking every night, it’s average once a week.

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