Because he's just not accepting it. He keeps saying "we've got a good relationship" and I just want to scream no, we haven't! GOod for him maybe, awful for me.
I've come to realize over the past few years that he's controlling, emotionally abusive, moody, negative and generally not nice. We have two small children and what I have put up with for myself I won't put up with for them. But he will not accept that it's over. He says I haven't given him a chance. He can't win etc etc. I'm blaming it all on him (I'm not, I can see my faults, I know I'm not perfect in this)
I just want him to go, but he won't. He thinks we can fix it. Even if he became the perfect husband there are things he can't change. Such as making himself and a visitor and sandwich at lunchtime, but not me, when I was breastfeeding our very hungry new baby, post c section. Having no involvement with Ds1 as a baby, until he had to (dc2 born) ignoring mothers day, birthdays (mine and children's) Christmas. Punching and kicking the wall a couple of feet from.me holding 3 day old dc2 because he was angry about the way I had been trying to put Ds1 to bed that night. Ignoring me when I tried to speak about having dcat pts. Calling me a vile butch in from of the children. And so on.
I'm trying to explain to him that I don't want to carry on, I won't carry on, I want to separate. He just argues with me. There is no argument to be had. But we've got the children so I was trying to keep it civil.
I'm rambling. Dcat is being pts today. He wants to come with me. I don't want him to. He hasn't bothered with the lots of other trips to vets and specialists, while heavily pregnant, and with tiddler and new baby.
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I'm.going to have to be a real bitch aren't I?
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