My partner of 2 years has been very distant for the last 6 months or more, whenever I ask if he still loved me I'd get a "yep" and then he'd change the subject. After a nice bank holiday weekend together, I finally asked him "how do you feel about me?" so that he couldnt just say yes, and after a bit of a pause he finally says "I dont think I feel the same way you do, I cant say it (I love you) if its isnt true".
He says he meant it when he said it in the past, but he just doesnt feel that way any more, he still "cares about me".
Im devastated, I knew he'd been more distant but always had that knowledge "he does still love me though", and now it turns out that hasnt been true for seemingly quite a while. I just keep replaying in my head all the times he said it and how happy I was, and I cant quite believe that thats just gone for no reason.
I feel simultaneously like a gullible idiot for believing him and making a fool of myself, and gutted that this is another relationship in a sparse line of "dating, going well, interest tales off, they end things without being the slightest bit hesitant or upset". I'm 36 and not exactly swamped with interest as it is, I can see a life of being lonely and unimportant to anyone stretching out in front of me, and I cant even blame him for being unreasonable.
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"I did love you, but I dont any more"
Heartbroken2 · 30/05/2017 13:13
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