Been with my BF for 5 months he was a heavy smoker since teens , I knew this before dating and thought it wouldn't be to much of an issue .
How wrong was I the constant need to go outside for a fag ultimately got me down not to mention the disgusting smell that clings to you and your hair and clothes .
In Feb he quit with patches I was so proud of him then Boom he got hit with a viral infection that left him in coronary care for a few days , he's going to be on heart meds for the rest of his life as the lungs filled with fluid and his heart over compensated and it caused damage to valves . Now today he went to see s consultant who told him it will never improve and he had to adjust his life style . I found out from kissing him that he's started back smoking again , I was so upset but thought ok it's only one or two but now it's more and more .
Today I've had enough just messaged him and said I hate it and I'm worrying over his health and he's smoking and not taking responsibility for his own well being , he has a young child who he needs to be around for it's not just about me here . Anyway the silence since I've sent the txt is deafening he has said before and one tells him what to do , Ever in the past so he will have spat his dummy out .
Can he not see how he is killing him self , he stood in front of me short of breath yest , he's very pale and lost a lot of weight . Just feel Shit I love him dearly but I think I would walk away cause I can not watch the man I love puffing on a cigerette when I've seen him hooked up on a drip and so poorly . Please advise me have I been wrong to express myself should I have just said nothing ?
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Just given BF ultimatum over smoking ☹️
Britainsgottalent · 28/04/2017 19:56
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