I feel awful - my family think I'm being ridiculous. I've always wanted to have a partner, children, etc.
Which is what I've got. I have a wonderful partner (been together 10 years) and we have a child (who's 2) but recently he brought up marriage. We have spoken about it before, but I said it wasn't that important to me, so he just said okay and that was it. We earn very similar wages (I'm just slightly more).
We go halves with everything (well, we do it by percentage of wages, so it ends up about half, but with me paying ever so slightly more) and we are both happy with this. This means everything... I don't know, I've just always been like this. We have our own bank accounts and each pay into a shared one, again, that's for things we are paying half of, so if I have swimming lessons with our little one, I put half in and he does, so the money comes out of the joint one? It's a bit obsessive, I suppose
Anyway, he is quite keen on marriage now, he says it would be nice to have everything official? My family agree and keep bringing it up to him but we are happy and yeah, I nice ceremony and honeymoon sounds lovely, I'm not really up for being tied to someone, as much as we are deeply in love, why does marriage change that? Genuine question, what would be the benefits of us getting married now?
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Is it wrong that I don't want to get married?
MissJessica · 16/04/2017 22:59
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