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Is my DH being rude or am I over sensitive WRT this message?

(33 Posts)
NamidyName Fri 14-Apr-17 23:56:06

Honestly, I very well may be being over sensitive, but I want to make sure.

I had a baby boy a few months ago and said via text I'd like to start running as I don't feel great about my appearance and he replies with the message attached. It's the "shall I cancel the Chinese" bit that seems rude!?

Again, I may be being over sensitive, please don't be too harsh!

hotwater Fri 14-Apr-17 23:58:27

You are being over sensitive. He sounds like he is trying to be supportive smile

Rioja123 Fri 14-Apr-17 23:59:37

You're being over sensitive.

MrsHenryWales Sat 15-Apr-17 00:00:16

He sounds lovely

Emphasise Sat 15-Apr-17 00:01:32

Blimey, I can't think of a way he could have been more lovely smile

lightcola Sat 15-Apr-17 00:01:47

His first sentence tells you you're gorgeous. Focus on that. He is being supportive. What did you want him to say?

FeckinCrutches Sat 15-Apr-17 00:01:57

Definitely over sensitive, he sounds lovely and was just trying to make a joke. I don't even get why you think he's being rude

PointlessUsername Sat 15-Apr-17 00:03:12

Sounds okay to me?.

NamidyName Sat 15-Apr-17 00:03:35

Wow! Ok! Definitely me then grin I don't know, I suppose I'm feeling very paranoid about things confused glad he wasn't though.

UrsulaPandress Sat 15-Apr-17 00:03:47

You are being over sensitive.


FeckinCrutches Sat 15-Apr-17 00:05:56

I hope you didn't have a go at him!

MrsHenryWales Sat 15-Apr-17 00:06:37

To be fair, it was a very reasonable question to ask about the Chinese. Because if you are trying to trim up, the Chinese isn't going to help, is it?

ByeByeBadman Sat 15-Apr-17 00:07:57

If you had a baby a few months ago, just take it easy on yourself though .

OldMcdonalad Sat 15-Apr-17 00:09:09

I think you wanted him to say really that there is completely nothing wrong with how you look and tell you not to bother in all honesty, doesn't mean he doesn't think that already but I think it's nice to just hear that sort of reply smile

OldMcdonalad Sat 15-Apr-17 00:09:29

Agree Badman

Floggingmolly Sat 15-Apr-17 00:11:48

Ah, God love him! Why do you think that's rude?

VimFuego101 Sat 15-Apr-17 00:17:24

I wish my husband would be similarly understanding about not eating crap when I'm trying to lose weight!

Aquamarine1029 Sat 15-Apr-17 03:51:40

You are totally overreacting. He's supporting you, now get out there and get back in shape! Starting exercising and eating properly. You'll feel so much better!

rollonthesummer Sat 15-Apr-17 04:00:00

Rude? Really?! Erm, he sounds lovely!

Fluffybrain Sat 15-Apr-17 04:01:13

He sounds like a nice guy.

Bluntness100 Sat 15-Apr-17 04:08:35

Wow. I'd hate to see how you reacted if he actually was rude. Nothing rude about that text.

Anniegetyourgun Sat 15-Apr-17 07:36:37

I have a finely tuned radar for offensive nuance and that doesn't sound like anything of the sort. He may have been gently teasing about the Chinese but there's nothing wrong with that.

KateDaniels2 Sat 15-Apr-17 08:01:22

Why did you feel annoyed? What is it you thought he was saying?

thethoughtfox Sat 15-Apr-17 09:26:18

He spelled 'you're' correctly. He's a keeper.

MumBod Sat 15-Apr-17 09:28:28

The double question mark shows he's joking about the Chinese, but only half-joking because he's trying to be supportive.

He sounds bloody lovely, truly.

Go easy on him and on yourself.

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