NC for this as the set up could be quite identifying but been here long enough to quote the penis beaker, Pom bears and naice ham..
We are a couple, married for 7 years. Between us we have 7 children but 2 are flown the coop. So left with my two, 19 (at Uni 2 days a week living at home - student loan) and 15 in yr 10.
19 yr old diagnosed with ADD at 8yrs old. Emotionally less mature than most his age. Has taken a while to find his way. His Mother mollycoddles him, his stepfather thinks he needs to get a grip, grow up and start contributing to the household...
Step-father has 3 children still at school. Early - mid teens. Sees them every fortnight without fail, never missed in ten years. Half of all school holidays.
The 'what is fair ?' Issue is about money. The wife in this marriage works full time. Always has. Has a very secure job in the public sector, pension been there 25 yrs. Takes home 2100 a month. Husband works in private sector. Contract work. Very insecure. Contracts can end at a weeks notice. No sickpay, No benefits as S/e . High risk but high reward. Average take home £5000 a month . Expenses are £500 child maintenance (v low , I know but private arrangement and agreed as part of whole package signing over house to ex - who is happy with the arrangement) Rent (too old to buy again after divorces) £1350. Household expenses after rent £1300
Wife's expenses £196 for her car . Husband owns his outright.
What is a fair division . How much should each pay towards household costs. There is no joint account.
Don't want to say which one (husband or wife) I am, as want unbiased honest answers. This argument has troubled our marriage for years an we both would like to know what others think is fair .
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What is fair ?
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