Me and my exP/DP have been trying to get back together.
We were together for almost 5 years, have a DD together. We split up almost a year ago, and have tried a few times to 'sort things out'.
The main things we seem to fail at, is he doesn't feel loved/wanted. I feel like I can't do anything right, am always letting him down, sometimes he is overbearing (I like my own space)
Yesterday we came back to mine from a day out. I had left the place a bit messy as was in a rush in the morning. I decided to tidy up while him and DD were playing/watching tv, etc. He decided it was time for me to put DD to bed. I wasn't quite finished tidying - still needed to hoover. He wasn't very happy about this as he had took her to the bedroom. I read her a story while he laid on my bed, they both fell asleep. I finished my tidying up, got ready for bed. He woke up, I said I was going to bed, he said to come sit on the sofa, I said no, was going to bed and kissed him goodnight. He got up, got his stuff and left.
This morning's text went something like this:
You didn't come wake me up, didnt say you loved me when you was going to bed, you could have said wanna come to bed too? You know I have never felt welcome at yours. Or just a five minute cuddle on the sofa. I'd just woke and was still sleepy. We get in you clean for hours. Even hoovering while putting DD to bed. If you didn't want me there you should have just said.
I'm beginning to think we are better off apart, does thins sound like too much hard work to you, or is this 'normal'? For the record I was cleaning for less than one hour.
Sorry for the essay.
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silverlin · 03/04/2017 21:25
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