We've been friends for around 8 years, im 34 he's 29. I think that he used to like me at the beginning of our friendship but at the time i just didnt really see him in that way but loved him as a friend. Over time I didnt see him as much and he got a girlfriend and I became involved with someone else too. However we always stayed in touch and he stops by to see me every now and then. Im no longer with my boyfriend and have been single for the past two years.
Anyway he called over to see me the other night. And as we were talking I realised how much we do have in common, we always really enjoy our conversations together. Well we were drinking wine, I had quite a bit more than him...the next thing I knew he moved over to me and then stuff happened between us. We didnt have sex but it was close. The next morning we woke up still hugging and it was nice.
He messaged me later in the day after he left and we were talking as usual.
The thing is now after thats happened Im thinking of him in a different way and think I have more romantic feelings towards him. But we havent discussed anything and Im too shy to bring it up really, I dont know what to do about this. Should I just keep quiet? Is it likely that he just isnt interested in me that way?
The other issue is that he does have a girlfriend. He always says she talks to him like crap and doesnt treat him well, but then again its his choice to have stayed with her so long. She has asked him to move in with her but he says he isnt sure and doesnt really want to, he says he only sees her every couple of weeks. But obviously this is a big issue and an obstacle.
Any advice would be welcome, as Im feeling so confused about everything.
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Slept with my friend? Please advise!
gaynor83 · 02/04/2017 20:48
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