I posted last week about me and my DP. We've not been getting on the best - not really arguing just there being more of an atmosphere. I spoke to him on Friday night and said our relationship was starting to feel more like living with a friend than a partner e.g. He doesn't really greet me when he gets home, no hugs, kisses etc. Yesterday we had a lovely day together, lunch out, a nice long walk with his mum and partner and then tea with my parents and kids yesterday evening. It was a lovely day. So.. we were upstairs last night and I came downstairs first. My p's Facebook was logged into my laptop where I'd asked him to log in the night before so that I could print some pics off ready for his birthday. I opened the lid and a conversation he'd had with another woman came up. She's 22, they are friends apparently, although I did corner him a few weeks back when I noticed a text from her saying is myself with you? If she is I'll text later. I was suspicious but p said that friend just didn't want to be a pain. P has always been negative about this friends boyfriend, has messaged her before saying to dump him and that p cares about her etc. They've been chatting loads over the last few weeks. Anyway. The message I saw last night was p telling friend me and him had a chat the night before and that I'd said it felt like friends ATM and he'd agreed, even though he hadn't. She'd asked what he was going to do and would the relationship last and well I can't remember the rest cause I just panicked. If they're friends genuinely then fine I suppose he was just talking to a friend BUT when he came downstairs I confronted him about discussing our relationship with this girl and told him to look at the screen. He said there was nothing there and there wasn't, the conversation has completely disappeared. He completely denied having written it and said there was no way I could have seen that. I feel like I'm going mad, I'm questioning now whether I imagined it. We argued for ages and it eventually ended with me apologising, as I normally do. He did the whole my chest is killing me, deep breathing thing. This morning however he'd obviously messaged her in the night as she'd written 'what did she see?' And then 'yes you can text me instead as I don't have what's app'. He'd already left for work and this time I sent him pics of what I'd seen but he's still adamant that what I saw last night wasn't real. He maintains that they are just friends and that he hasn't discussed our relationship with her. Meanwhile I'm ready to go yesterday the Drs cause I think I'm going crazy. My ex used to do this kind of thing, say I hadn't seen something and then argue it with me and my p keeps saying 'I'm not like ex'. I don't know what I hope to achieve from this but I just needed to get it down. I feel like being gone to be honest, I love p to bits but I just don't know what's going on.
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