Some of you might remember me, I posted about 5 months ago when my husband walked out on me with no warning. Will post a link to the thread below if I can work out how to do it. Anyway after 3 weeks solid of crying my eyes out and begging him to come home, I dusted my shattered heart off and went back to work, certain it would all come falling down around my ears and I wouldn't cope (as he'd made sure to tell me I couldn't cope without him for many years).
Well, something amazing happened..... I survived! I can't say it is easy working full time and running the house/kids completely on my own but it's really bloody liberating! After that first full week back at work I knew I could do this and I started to realise how much nicer things were without him around! I hadn't realised how miserable I was and how EA he was. Me and dds love being a girls only house and we are all so close now, dd2 still has a few wobbles but she says herself that she prefers him not being at home as she actually spends more quality time with him now and we have a nicer time at home as we do what we want when we want without having to ask his permission. I'm actually so much happier and relaxed without home.
So around Christmas time I realised that I didn't want to sit around at home alone every night now that I had nights where he had dd2 and where dd1 was out or at her boyfriend's. So I thought I'd sign up for a dating site as some company on nights out would be nice. I can't believe how much response I've had, literally beautiful men telling me how hot I am! Definitely the confidence boost I needed. 
So chatted to a few different men, some turned out to be pervs before we had even been on a date so got written off but there's one guy that I've chatted to almost every day for about 6/7 weeks now. We have been on several dates, he always makes the effort, drives over 1 1/2 hours each way to see me. We kissed on the second date and last night we DTD!!!!! All night!!!! Was the best fun I've had with my clothes off in a long while! He's fun . I can't believe I've turned my life around so quickly. So happy being an independent woman! Especially one that gets all night shagging sessions! 
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Update to keep those in despair hanging on in there
Swift1978 · 12/03/2017 22:55
"just when the caterpillar thought the world was over. It became a beautiful butterfly". Well done you 
Thanks all, just want to give some hope to those feeling like I did when I first posted.... I honestly thought that was it and my life was over, thank god I had the dds to focus on and ride out those first awful weeks with. I would never have believed how strong and happy I would feel now..... if I can do it, anyone can!
Thanks for posting this! You're just the inspiration I need right now. 
Well done.
Well despite my 'I really don't want or need to know' spiel he insisted on texting me to tell me that he cheated on me a few days before he walked out. I am either shocked or surprised by this, he is a pathetic walking cliche.
I am however royally pissed off about how he made me feel like it was all my fault our relationship broke down when actually it was because he was a lying, cheating cunt. So I replied to tell him this. I also stated that since I now had proof of his adultery I would now like the divorce that he has refused to pay for and that he can now bloody well pay up for.
I'm not even in the slightest bit sad, if he hadn't been such an utter cunt I might still be living that miserable lie of a life. He is dead to me! Yay! 
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