Not sure what im asking really so I suppose it's a 'what would you do?'
My granny is in her mid 80s and is/used to be very active but last year she was ill and never really seemed to get back to 100% health physically and mentally. She passes out about once every three months
She has family but it's only me really that spends time with her or does things she needs doing as she won't ask any one else. She was also a massive support to me growing up as I had a baby very young.
The thing is in these past couple of years she has become really passive aggressive and quite controling over my two youngest children, almost as if she is all of our mothers. It something she has always joked about but my dh pointed out it's quite undermining as I've never really seen it that way and tbh it is.
She gets really stressed out with my 3 year old who is actually very well behaved, she sees danger at every corner and I know she will not relax on this holiday especially around the pool and me and dh will end up pulling our hair out.
P.A examples :
Telling me she is sweltering so I put air conditioning on in car - sitting in silence the entire car ride (40 mins) then as she is getting out of car telling me she is frozen because I had it too cold.
Reminding me of poor choices I made as a young mum/teenager
Reminding me what a shit mother I had.
Telling me not to visit her in hospital as she has visitors (I drove up every day for two weeks) only to ring me at the night time saying she was lonely and depressed.
Telling my three year old I won't let her (granny) come on holiday as she mithers me
Too much.
Constantly asking about things that could be wrong with my perfectly healthy baby. And when I say 'stop it she is fine' she replies with 'it's only cos I love her and I don't want her to......' then trails off
(Dh would go mad at this if he heard her.
Everything is stressfull for her and her and if she feels left out she starts acting childish (which I've never ever known) she also has become quite rude when we are eating out - which I've never seen her be like this before.
The don't know wether to say we're not going at all and not go but dh really wants to go away but I don't fancy a week of nearly strangling my 85 year old granny.
What would you do?
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Changed my mind about granny coming on holiday.
Jazzywazzydodah · 28/02/2017 17:34
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