..am I being U to be upset at this?
My DB (or at least I thought was my "D"B) lives in Australia. He occasionally gets sent over to London for work, so he's reluctant to plan holidays here in case he then has to come over twice. By occasionally, I mean the last time was 3.5 years ago, but there have been a few times where it's come up again and then not happened. A couple of weeks ago he told me he may be coming in March, but wasn't sure, and would fly up to see us too. I was excited, but knew to wait and see. He said if the work trip didn't materialise this time, then he'd come over in our summer for a couple of weeks, because he has more leave than his partner this year and needs to take it.
Either way, I was happy.
Then I got an email saying his work trip is going ahead. He's coming to see us..arriving on a Thursday, leaving the Sunday.
He hasn't seen me or the kids (other than Skype) for 3.5 years and they're 3.75 and 5.5 respectively.
I am so disappointed. We can't afford the tickets to go to visit him and getting a big enough block of time off would also be a problem. We also couldn't stay with him so would have accommodation costs, car rental etc, none of which he has coming to stay with us (and we have a spare room and bathroom here, so no issues space wise at all). I asked if he had any flexibility about the days and he has just said that's when he's coming.
And he's definitely not coming in the summer now, because he'll have been over in March.
I have no other siblings and not in touch with either parent. I really value my relationship with him and make an effort to stay in touch. I think I'm probably kidding myself though, aren't I? If he really wanted to see us, or valued his relationship with me, he'd either be a bit apologetic about it being so short, or he'd have made it more than three nights.
I'm really crushed by this, but trying not to be, which is why I'm not putting it on the real AIBU.
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Am feeling too fragile for AIBU, but..
LevantineHummus · 17/02/2017 10:11
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