I don't know what I am expecting posting on here but I feel like I don't know what to do or whether I am overreacting.
I'm 27 weeks pregnant and I am not sure whether it is my hormones or whether I should be genuinely questioning my relationship.
I feel like we do nothing but bicker and my tolerance for it has drastically reduced lately. I feel like he always has double standards ie we were (very gently) play fighting in bed this morning and because I poked his belly button he flicked his wrist and bopped me in the face, right in the eye and made it water and I instantly got my ass out because if that were the other way around he would be going mad at me although I would have apologised straight away. I know it sounds trivial but this belongs to a longish list of things that are infuriating me lately.
One thing that is really getting me down is the fact that he has no interest in conversations about our baby. A little back story on this- my 1st child, his 3rd plus large age gap between us. When I fell pregnant he lost the plot. Didn't want me to continue the pregnancy even telling me "get rid of the fucking thing". After everything calmed down and he got his head around the shock, he apologised and things have been fine since. I have had an awful pregnancy with my own health issues, HG etc but he has been supportive for the most part (1st few weeks were "you wouldn't be feeling so I'll if you weren't pregnant") but we have gotten over the initial turbulence of the pregnancy a day returned to a fairly good place bar this increasing bickering and my feelings of is this really the relationship I want?
He has no interest in getting baby things ready, no interest in the cute clothes I am obviously excited about and no interest in general conversation about baby. I think I may be being over sensitive to this as he is and man with few emotions and do even less words but I just want him to share my enthusiasm and dad excitement. When this happens all it leads me to think is that he still doesn't want this baby and his comments still resound in my head.
I know most of this is extremely trivial but I am struggling to know whether this is just my hormones going a little irratic or whether I should genuinely be questioning my future with this man.
I love him dearly but my love seems to be becoming increasingly clouded with resentment and frustration. I know he loves me and is not a bad man despite how he reacted to me being pregnant.
I would have no where to go if I left and I don't want to bring my baby up alone but something keeps telling me that I am not happy.
I appreciate any advice and thank you if you've read the whole post- didn't anticipate it being so long.
Thank you
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needanothercat · 11/02/2017 18:02
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