A few months ago, my uncle, who I don't know really well and rarely see decided on a visit to my mums house to give my two younger children £10 each and leave out my 15 year old dd who is severely autistic. He gave it to my mum to give to me so I didn't have the chance to speak to him about it then.
I was very upset and angry. I sent the money back to him with a letter saying that I will not tolerate discrimination against dd1 in any form and that my children are all to be treated the same. I've heard nothing back from him - no apology, nothing.
What is really annoying me is that my mother keeps telling me I'm 'disloyal' and 'despicable' for sending the money back to him. She WILL NOT acknowledge that he was wrong or that I have a right to be upset. Her logic as I see it is twisted. Surely it's normal for my loyalty to be with my child above him! Apparently, according to her friends at work I'm in the wrong. It was the final straw, since before this I had noticed he tends to ignore dd1 and only speak to my other children or show interest in them.
The situation feels so unfair that I am being made to feel that I've done something wrong when it was his choice to disrespect my dd. This uncle has a track record of not very acceptable behaviour. For example, he invited my parents to stay with him and they drove 3 hours to get there and found he was out! It turned out he was in Wales. So they drove all the way back! My mum has invited him countless times, cooked a nice meal then he cancels at the last minute. I can't see why she thinks his feelings matter so much above mine, her daughter and her granddaughter. Not that it even makes a difference but dd1 likes clothes like any other teenager. I would have been able to find something for her.
I'm just very frustrated that my mother refuses to see my point of view.
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Problems with family regarding treatment of my disabled dd
lottieandmia · 09/02/2017 16:33
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