In the last few days I have found out that a member of my family has been charged and found guilty of possessing indecent images of children as well as other extreme pornography. These were Category A level images.He was originally charged with making indecent images of children but that charge was withdrawn. Shockingly he has somehow avoided jail and been given a suspended sentence plus placed on sex offenders register. He is related to me by marriage and has several children with his wife who is a member of my family.
His wife and many other members of the family are standing by him. In fact they haven't even told anyone about his crime and trial. I only found out by accident. When we saw them recently there was no mention of this and I am sickened that they sat in my home and didn't tell me the truth about this monster. I have young children myself and I am so sad that I haven't been given the full information.
I am absolutely devastated that members of my family have kept this hidden and struggling to reconcile it all with the people I have loved and trusted all my life.
I can't believe he can get away with these crimes and still lead a basically normal life. None of their children have been removed but I believe from reading the newspaper reports that their children are very much in danger. Maybe SS are involved but obviously as none of this has been told to my directly I am not aware of it. I am so worried for their children.
I am so angry to see on FB all these happy family photos and updates knowing that he is a convicted sex offender.
I don't even know what I am asking. I just feel so betrayed and confused that everyone is sweeping it under the carpet and pretending nothing has happened. Even to the extent of keeping it hidden from other family members. I really just need to write it all down.
My husband and I have agreed that we will have no contact with any of these family members from now on in order to safeguard our own children but the whole thing is just so sickening.
I honestly don't know what to do.
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MuffinTip · 08/02/2017 16:32
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