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Why are men such morons ?!

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crazycatlady25 Sun 05-Feb-17 14:46:20

Just posting so I can vent.

Background is as follows.... I was seeing a guy for a couple of months before Christmas, I liked him, he was good at staying in touch messaging daily etc, didn't sleep together although sometimes came close.
Said guy was terrible at arranging to meet up, he was always busy with friends, on some occasions he said he would pop by & visit if he wasn't out too late with friends, which resulted in me getting ready etc & making myself look nice, for him to message & say that he was going to be with friends later than he thought. ' Booty call' did spring to mind frequently but I guess my judgement was clouded due to the fact of how much effort he was making to stay in touch.
He never arranged to for us to actually go anywhere, dates were at my house, I used to cook & we would watch tv and cuddle etc. He never tried to instigate sexy time, that was all my doing! Hence me thinking I couldnt be a ' Booty call ' due to his actions of not actually trying for any ' Booty'
Anyway I got tired of the ' I will pop round later if I'm free ' scenarios, on several occasions I had made the effort to look nice etc for him to message that he was out with friends later than he expected, it dawned on me that this guy isn't really interested, if he was he would make time to see me & not just be ' popping by later if he was free'
After about 2 months of this I lost interest and it fizzled out mutually.

Fast forward to now, I have had my boobs done ( breast implants) nothing ridiculous, they are very natural looking & I absolutely love them ( I was very small chested previously ) Anyhow this guy has clocked on that I've had this done ( friends writing complimentary stuff on Facebook ) which I'm fine with as the new boobies are noticeable anyway. He's now back in touch,hes messaged saying hoped my surgery went well etc, and more messages re general chit chat. I replied standard polite obligatory replies, I haven't really engaged in anyway to give him the impression that I'm
Interested again. He is still messaging! Cringey super nice messages, when I haven't replied to his last few messages! Now this is the guy that was always too busy to see me, I felt like he stood me up on several occasions re the ' I may come see you later ' scenario.
He had his chance & he blew it! I just wish I had the guts to tell him to piss off & that I wasn't born yesterday & no you won't get to see my new boobs!

I'm just shocked at how ironically he's all of a sudden interested again. Need to think of a dignified response to tell him to piss off as his super nice caring messages that he keeps sending that I'm not responding to are actually now getting on my tits ( now that I have some tits lol )
Got to laugh really... what a moron ?!

Ellisandra Sun 05-Feb-17 15:35:13

Calling all men morons thankfully goes down as well on here about idiots making derogatory comments about "women".

pallasathena Sun 05-Feb-17 15:36:50

Its classic behaviour. You show interest, he acts cool. You behave in a cool way, he shows interest....
I'm reminded of that old fashioned maxim:
"Treat them mean keep them keen'.
Its a learning curve.....

BantyCustards Sun 05-Feb-17 15:38:57

'Mate, you had your chance, you blew it' Bye'.

Simple

Madlizzy Sun 05-Feb-17 15:40:13

Some men are, as are some women. This one sounds like a bit of a tool. Just block him from everywhere.

SandyY2K Sun 05-Feb-17 15:40:28

It's not all men. It's the man you're dealing with and while you don't have the courage to block and delete him (or others like him), you allow their behaviour to continue.

sonlypuppyfat Sun 05-Feb-17 15:45:32

Not all men are morons, perhaps you just attract morons grin

piefacerecords Sun 05-Feb-17 15:49:03

Why are you giving this one moronic person headspace?

Ignore, block and move on - and learn to raise your standards a bit next time - why didn't you think you deserved better?

trinketsofgold Sun 05-Feb-17 15:49:06

I'm more concerned about how you seem to measure your worth by your boobs.

He could be back in touch for hundreds of reasons

Ellisandra Sun 05-Feb-17 15:55:17

I'm still giggling that a grown adult uses the word "boobies"grin

Why do you keep morons on your Facebook?

MyheartbelongstoG Sun 05-Feb-17 16:06:53

You have to watch everything you say on here.......

I know you don't mean all men.

Just ignore the messages. It sends a clearer message ;)

CruellaDeVilsEvilSister Sun 05-Feb-17 16:18:35

Just block him OP! He's scum, and not worth a moment of your time.

And of course it's not all men, just 99.9% grin

SaltySeaDog72 Sun 05-Feb-17 16:56:12

He just wants to cop a feel.

Ignore him. No response is a response..

Better still block him. Can't imagine why this person is taking up quite so much of your headspace!

ShatnersBassoon Sun 05-Feb-17 17:01:29

Lorraine Kelly says boobies.

Tell him to do one and get rid of him off Facebook.

CaoNiMa Sun 05-Feb-17 17:18:29

I'm no man-lover personally, but you can't generalise like that. Your chap does sound like a cock, but cockishness isn't universal among menfolk.

MrsTerryPratchett Sun 05-Feb-17 17:21:13

Lorraine Kelly says boobies.

Every day is a school day.

GetAGlance Sun 05-Feb-17 17:42:44

<sigh> you posted about your breast surgery on facebook?

why would you do that? what kind of man would you even think you'd attract with that kind of admission and ADVERTISEMENT? of course some scuzzy bloke wanted to get in contact with you?

why does that even surprise you? is that man here really the only moron?

GetAGlance Sun 05-Feb-17 17:48:43

boobies. ughh! so named by professional superficial nobody lorranie kelly.

for grown adults -

its breasts.

i think they are so underrated. they feed babies. they're very sensitive. and sexual. why reduce them to plastic implant bubbles.

MrsBlennerhassett Sun 05-Feb-17 17:50:51

Arrange to meet him then phone last minute and say something better came up and you are doing that sorry.
Evil but satisfying.

GetAGlance Sun 05-Feb-17 17:52:45

or find something completely more interesting to do with your life than focus on your breasts and the response of the general public to them.

Jeez.

TimidLividyetagain Sun 05-Feb-17 17:53:06

You are clearly letting everyone know u have implants.to me sounds like he wants to try the you with implants out. Like he's an ass. Don't give the timewasters a second chance. You are worth more. And you are more than your implants. Date someone who will value you and time with you.

dangerrabbit Sun 05-Feb-17 17:57:10

I object to the use of the word moron but second the poster who recommended you play games with him by arranging to meet up then standing him up just like he did to you. Then block and delete and give him no more headspace. Next!

Sweets101 Sun 05-Feb-17 18:01:27

I thought 'moron' usually got deleted or an edit if in thread title?

YouHadMeAtCake Sun 05-Feb-17 18:07:09

If you weren't interested OP, why was he still on your Facebook /able to see photos. It sounds to me like you hoped he would see the photos and comments and get back in touch.

crazycatlady25 Sun 05-Feb-17 20:19:57

In response to GETAGLANCE .... I suggest you find more productive things to do with your Sunday than trying to trouble cause. Firstly, if you read my post correctly you would see that it was my friend who made the comment on FB - I did not advertise the fact that I had had this done. So you were incorrect in your statement that ' I advertised my change in body parts '
Secondly I do not wish for your opinion on why would I do that ... quite frankly it's MY body and it's absolutely none of your business!
Thirdly in your suggestion that I get a life other than seeing what reaction I get from people on FB .... what ?! Like I said I never advertised this.
So all your points are null & void.
Go poke your nose & opinions somewhere else where it's not wanted!
It's people like you that give MN a bad name. Your points were incorrect due to the facts I stated, and bluntly I don't care for your opinions re why I have done it, that's MY BUSINESS.
P.S I'm not a moron, you are, for shooting off before you read the facts correctly.

That's all. Smiley face smile

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